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Posted on Jul 04, 2008 under Uncategorized|
Happy Independence day. I won’t be with my beauty today. However, I will be with Spidey and my hubby. We of course are going to watch the parades and the fireworks display. I will post some photographs to my flickr account a little later. If you want access to my flickr account let me know so, that I can add you. It is private to prevent the psycho from using my pictures in court claiming he was with her and they were his. That is of course, totally bogus. I have more pictures of Beauty then psycho can imagine. To think I use to give psycho photos of Beauty. What on earth was I thinking?
Well, I am going to celebrate our Independence day with my hubby who served in Iraq and is in the National Guard. He has definitely fought for our freedoms. Without him and the other soldiers that defend our freedom we would be in a completely different situation.
On a side note and funny note. One of the hubby’s friends emailed me and said Happy Independence and Cracker day. I couldn’t help but laugh.
Enjoy your 4th of July. Dress the children up in lots of RED, WHITE, and BLUE!
Jul
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Posted on Jul 03, 2008 under Uncategorized|
Over at Unconscious Mutterings I found a meme I like. Instructions below.
Each week 10 words are posted to which you can respond to with the first thing that comes to mind.
“Rules are, there are no rules.” There are no right or wrong answers. Don’t limit yourself to one word responses; just say everything that pops into your head. AND you don’t have to have your words up on Sunday. Take all week if you want! 
Read the FAQ for more information.
Loneliness :: Sad
Traffic :: Painful
Chaos :: See above random word. Everyone morning on the 10.
Burp :: Nasty
500 :: Miles
Movie :: Wanted, Angelina Jolie is um different.
Coma :: Hospital
Bark :: Dog
Stare :: Blankly
Angelina :: Jolie
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Posted on Jul 02, 2008 under Uncategorized|
What is a stepmother anyway? She certainly isn’t my daughter’s biological parent. She probably has biological children in her life, but they have nothing to do with her becoming a stepmother. On the other hand, she is not a step. She tries to be civil at least, but I don’t care for lies and she has been known to lie. I mean her son told my daughter she didn’t belong with me. SERIOUSLY! How dare they say stuff about me to their children knowing that small children will repeat it. You know it didn’t come from that kid because he doesn’t even know who I am at all. Not really sure how the word step gets in there; it is not all that descriptive. I guess children feel like they can step on them. 
HAHA LOL JK
My daughter’s stepmother cannot and will not act like a mother to my daughter for several reasons. I already fill the position of mommy - and there will NEVER be enough room for two in the mommy position. Apparently the stepmother has been trying to wedge herself into the mommy position, it really puts my daughter in a loyalty dilemma. This is a dilemma that the stepmother is going to lose no matter how good of a person she is because I am not a lousy mother. Kind of aggravating to say the least.
And yet, the stepmother is the one raising my daughter during the summer and on vacations and she has to be responsible for her because the biological father isn’t there. What I would like to know is how she plans on pulling that off. How can she possibly be as loving and as responsible a parental figure as me without violating my mommy role in my daughter’s life?
She better walk softly and slowly. She has already taken on the authority completely because again the father isn’t there as much as she happens to be. I don’t like this but, there isn’t much I can do. She needs to learn to not cross into my space emotionally or otherwise. Tread lightly because I am the mommy and I am a good one.
Her husband, aka the biological father to my daughter, should be supporting her. She shouldn’t lie but rather admit her mistakes to herself and others and celebrate victories privately. Don’t put those in the mom’s face. It is rude and cruel. After all I want my daughter to love having a bonus family but, not when they are throwing fallacies and untruths around. She has to just wait. She needs to get over the idea of normalcy but she knew that when she married her husband. Accept the messy reality that she married into because that was her choice done of her own free will. She has to anticipate the kind of things such as her child saying something that has been said to him by them and repeating it to my daughter. That drama started in their home and needs to end in their home. She has to accept that drama with an ironic sense of serenity.
If you are a stepmother out there I commend you on all of your hard work. I absolutely am amazed at the strength of a stepparent. You are a caring person hopefully that works through the unforeseen and adjusts the path on the way because you need to be a rock and you should know that your graciousness and goodness is a present to your family and yourself. All good stepparents get their reward at the end of the journey. Don’t expect one in the beginning. Don’t expect one at all if you lie to your own children about the mother of your stepchildren.
Some non-stepparents such as myself send the other children presents because it is the right thing to do. Even if that child called me mean and said cruel things to my daughter. I am an adult and must remember that children repeat what they here at that age.
